The benefits of an FLR are numerous but so are the responsibilities. As the dominant, you are not going to spend the rest of your life laying on the couch getting fat. You are responsible for decisions big and small. The health and welfare of the submissive is now your responsibility. This includes both physical and mental health.
It is the responsibility of the dominant to provide all resources needed for transition, training, and daily life. This includes both the cost and the effort required. This will not be a life of leisure for either of you in the beginning. It is your responsibility to maintain the rules and permissions in effect under the established guidelines. Discipline and compliance must be maintained. Failure to perform, and compliance failures by the submissive must be dealt with fairly and effectively.
It is your responsibility to ensure that the relationship does not become stagnant, nor does it become overwhelming. Just because he followed you down the rabbit hole does not mean that you are now the Red Queen. “Off with their heads!” is not an option here. Your goal as dominant should be perpetual growth and evolution.
Erotic tension is the engine that drives successful FLRs. Cultivating and maintaining that tension is your responsibility. There are many tools at your disposal: rewards, punishments, mystery, fear, and compassion. You are responsible for being attractive, alluring, mysterious. Obviously, you will be exhibiting a new presence, power, and demeanor, but don’t hesitate to present a new appearance now, or at any time in the future. If there is a certain look and attitude that makes you appear intimidating, don’t be afraid to use it. Be glamorous, be mysterious, be anything that you want to be. Just don’t be a slob.
Ours is not a cuckolding relationship, but don’t be afraid to be mysterious enough to make him wonder. I particularly enjoy going “Butch” and making her wonder if I am having an affair with a friend or work colleague. Men are fascinated by lesbian relationships. Make her jealous and horny at the same time. These are good motivators.
For the men. Ok, you’ve begged and pleaded, or she has begged and pleaded, or you both agreed. The table has been set; you have agreed to be a submissive to your wife’s domination. Now be the best submissive you can be. From this point forward you will display no attitude, no back talking, no questioning, and no resistance. There will be no door slamming, no pouting, and no moping. Your attitude should reflect your pride in your new station in life. Be proud to serve your Mistress, and always strive to make her proud of you. Be humble. Be proud.
Never question her moods or behavior, they are not yours to question. Never hesitate when instructed to do something. You must always assume that Mistress knows best. Your proper response in all situations is “Yes, Miss!” Don’t assume you have any rights or privileges beyond those established in the initial guidelines; If she wants you to speak, she will tell you. In some households or training modules the sub must ask for the right to use the bathroom. Stay off the furniture unless told otherwise.
Worship your Mistress, anticipate her needs. Above all, respect her privacy. Take pride in your household. Take pride in yourself. Finally, be thankful, you have been given a rare and valuable gift.
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