Sarah Jane's House

 Step Two 

Mandatory daily Yoga begins on day one.  The skincare regimen began the feminization process from the outside in, now we are going to begin building our new girl from the inside out. We want our new girl to be pretty, but more importantly we want her to be strong and healthy in mind and body. There is no better tool available than regular Yoga practice. 

Men may have muscles, but they are weak. They are weak in body, and weak in mind. A regular Yoga practice will strengthen the body and mind while simultaneously cultivating the very qualities we wish to impart. We want to eliminate the aggressive nature of the male psyche and replace the lumbering rigid male form with a form that is more graceful, flowing, and gentile. 

The male form tends to be bulky and compact. We want to fashion a body that exhibits long, lean graceful lines and movement. Men inherently lack the flexibility of the female form. Yoga practice can create that flexibility. Men focus their muscle development on arms, legs, chest, and shoulders. As these muscle groups become more developed the muscles become denser, shorter, and less flexible. Men generally neglect core strength and aerobic capacity. I have watched strong men, footballers, and muscle builders struggle to complete even the simplest Yoga class. Most men avoid Yoga for two reasons: 1) Yoga classes have traditionally been a woman’s world, and 2) it is simply too difficult for men. 

Fortunately, we are seeing a revolution of sorts, in recent years, with increased coed participation in Yoga classes globally. If attending classes is not possible, she can certainly practice at home. She will need to begin slowly, with simple routines, so as not to injure herself. She will very likely be using muscles that she has never used before and stretching muscles that have never been stretched before. If she can attend Yoga classes with you, I encourage you to take her with you, but only to simple beginner classes. As an added benefit, these classes will get her accustomed to being one of the girls. 

She must be properly attired for practice. This is a chance to introduce some fun clothing into her wardrobe. For home practice she will, of course, need some lovely yoga pants, sport bras, tank tops, leotards, and maybe add some lovely pink trainers for the aerobic exercises that we will be adding to her physical fitness routine.  

During this early stage in her development, if she is attending classes with you, dress her as androgynously as possible. Push the limits, but don’t violate the boundaries. She will of course, be impeccably groomed, moisturized, and hairless. She might be a little self-conscious, but that is a good thing. She needs to begin to become more comfortable in her new femininity. Also, it is not uncommon for male athletes in today’s world to be hairless. Don’t be surprised though if a few of the girls don’t notice her impeccable grooming and wonder if there might not be a little bit of “gayness” there. 

Category: The basics 

This will be a major learning experience for both of you. Not only must he/she adjust to a new lifestyle and a new way of thinking, feeling, and being; but she will have an enormous amount of learning to do. She must learn how to be a girl – a crash course, indeed. She must learn to properly clean house, cook, do laundry, sew, garden, and shop; all while learning to become a girl. I use the term “girl” repeatedly because she will never become a woman. She may become feminine, she may become a housewife, she may become your lesbian lover, but she will never become a woman. 

All these things will take time to learn. Think of all that you learned as a pre-pubescent, then pubescent, then teen girl. It is your responsibility to make sure that she is properly trained, either by yourself, or with the support of other women. You must establish her duties explicitly. Make clear what is expected of her, then teach her how to do it.  

Although you are the dominant, you must show patience, encouragement, and love during this period. Teach through demonstration. Coach her repeatedly until you are confident that she has learned. If she struggles to learn, you must be patient. This is not the time to punish. Never criticize her work, you can point out deficiencies but do not criticize the product. You may criticize her effort if you feel it is not up to par, but do not belittle her work if she is putting forth true effort. 

During this period, I find it is best not to treat her as a submissive. If you find yourself becoming frustrated, intimidating, and harsh, you may find it helpful to think of her as your daughter. Treat her as a daughter that you love dearly. You want to see her learn and grow and blossom into a confident, beautiful and happy young lady.  Have her call you “Mother”. Dress her accordingly; make her bedroom a beautiful girly room, refer to her as your daughter. Become the mother and daughter happily making cookies and brownies in the kitchen. Do it with love and patience. 

I have always felt very strongly that becoming feminine must be done in stages. Having her move through the phases in a young girl’s life is a natural progression that increases the chances of an effective emasculation and transition to femininity. As you will see in other blogs, many women, including myself, will at various times revoke “Adult” permissions and place the Sub back into an earlier life stage. This can be done as punishment, or for training purposes. Early life stages may include teen years, pubescence, pre-teen years, kindergarten, or even infantile, complete with diapering, cribs, and baby bottles. 

I had marvelous experiences using the mother/daughter scenario. I was able to teach and coach in a loving supportive manner, and she was able to explore her new persona without an excessive amount of pressure or fear. Your young girl might even begin to dream of growing up and becoming a beautiful Princess!

Encourage her, praise her, correct her without criticizing, reward her progress with treats and permissions. Do not lose sight of the goal, which is to teach her to do proper work. You want to be proud of her, more importantly, at this stage, you want her to be proud of her work, and proud to please you. Help her to become the confident, capable, devoted servant and lover that you deserve.  

Basic Training: 

Before you exploit your newly acquired power you need to train your new wife in every aspect of her new life. This will require time, effort, patience, and no small amount of cost. 

Cooking. Assess her cooking skills, or lack thereof. She may already have some rudimentary cooking skills, but you cannot assume anything. Begin with the foods that are regular menu items in your household. Prepare breakfast with her: coffee, tea, juice, bacon, sausages, eggs, biscuits. Can she prepare a simple lunch sandwich, soup, salad, or chips? 

For now, keep the dinner menu confined to things that she will be familiar with. She should be able to properly cook a roast, grill a steak, make gravies, simple sauces, and pizzas, roast vegetables, and make a decent salad and dressing. After the initial stages of her transformation are complete, she will have time to learn more dishes, and explore new cooking skills but now is not the time to learn pastries, soufflés, and exotic dishes. In a short while, she should be able to prepare and serve a proper breakfast, tea, and dinner. Do not forget to teach her menu planning to organize her grocery shopping. 

Laundry. You will want to work very closely with her in the laundry room. Mistakes here will ruin your clothes and her new clothes as well. You will want your clothes to be properly cleaned, pressed and folded or hung, the towels to be soft and fluffy, the sheets and pillowcases to be fresh and smooth. You will want to spend as much effort on the teaching of laundry skills as you did in teaching cooking skills. She will also be tasked with hand washing your lingerie and making sure that your dry cleaning is done and picked up in a timely manner. May Heaven help her if the Black Chiffon Backless dress that you want for the office party tonight is at the cleaners, rather than in the closet where it belongs. 

Housework. This will be virgin territory for most men. Men have absolutely no comprehension of the amount of work required to maintain a tidy household. It is this area that causes most men to fail my FLR Certification Courses. 

A male can run a vacuum. A male can do the dusting. Beyond that, everything else is questionable. Watch her vacuum, then teach her how to vacuum properly, watch her dust, then teach her how to dust properly. You will need to devote a large amount of time to teaching her how to properly clean a bathroom. Watching a man trying to properly clean a bathtub, shower, or toilet for the first time is quite humorous. She will be shocked to learn that the wet towels left on the floor after a shower do not pick themselves up and magically jump into the wash.

Kitchen cleaning and maintenance will be another area to which you will want to focus your attention. Aside from the dirty dishes, pots, and pans, the oven and stove require diligent attention, and if you do not give regular attention to the refrigerator, strange things begin to grow in there. The floors need to be swept and mopped and the walls and ceilings washed and wiped. 

Teach these things well. Teach them patiently. Show her how to do something, then do it with her, then let her try. Have her do these tasks repeatedly until you are sure that she has mastered them. Never criticize or belittle her work during this stage. Correct her patiently, praise her successes, encourage her, make her proud of her work, and more importantly make her proud of pleasing you, because that is what this is really all about. 

Opinions vary, and I am sure I will catch a lot of heat from other dominant wives, but I believe in patience, love, and support during this initial training period where cooking, cleaning, and laundry are concerned. I do not believe that anyone learns well under pressure, or in harsh conditions. There will be plenty of time to exploit your domination later. Remember that your goal here is not to abuse her, it is to teach her how to serve you properly. You want your food properly prepared, your home meticulously cleaned, and your laundry done correctly. 

 Before any FLR can actually be implemented, an inviolate set of rules and boundaries must be established. Those rules must establish the strict adherence to boundaries. Rules maintain the power exchange and the separation of powers. Boundaries protect the participants and are necessary to make an FLR practical, and feasible, in the real world. Although your relationship with each other is changing, your personal, professional, and social relationships must be maintained in a traditional manner. Never compromise the Submissive’s professional, personal, or family relationships.  

I also have very strong opinions on scenarios of public humiliation. Never involve strangers in public acts of submission, and never ever engage in any sensual practice in a location accessible to minor children. Hotel maids and dress store clerks, must put up with enough abuse without being unwitting parties to sex play. I must confess to occasionally teasing Amy in front of a waitress at dinner or in a nightclub, but only if it is a situation in which I know the person involved and I know that they will be amused rather than embarrassed. Opinions vary on this subject and I know that many “Mistresses” feel that they have the right to train or abuse their submissive in any public setting, but I think that most skilled and experienced Dominas  avoid compromising unsuspecting members of the public in their scenarios. At the risk of being repetitive, our focus here is lifestyle training, not role-play scenarios, and any lifestyle, if it is to succeed must have a sense of practicality to it.  

Also, remember that our primary goal here in the initial stage of this lifestyle is learning to live, think, and feel in a totally new way. This is about teaching and learning. Punishments, including humiliation, may be necessary in the reformatting process, but punishment is a tool, not an end-goal. Occasional humiliation of the Submissive may amuse us, it will most certainly offend anyone outside the Dom/Sub relationship. 

My Amy is required to always be well groomed and be perfumed. However, I would never embarrass her in a work situation. Although I generally do not share my clothing and cosmetics with her, when visiting her family or mine, I allow her to spritz lightly with my perfume instead of hers, that way if her mother or sisters notice the fragrance, they will attribute the smell to contact with me. Occasionally, my sister will comment after a greeting hug, “Don’t you smell nice?”, which inevitably causes Amy to blush as I unsuccessfully suppress a wicked conspiratorial smile. She must always be feminized to some degree, panties are not negotiable, but I would never make her wear a brassiere to a family dinner or otherwise embarrass her family in any way.

In generic public settings, away from work, friends, or family, Amy is expected to always be at least metaphorically, if not actually, a half step behind me, and to speak when spoken too. When we are in the shops, I make all of the choices. When dining out, I order for both of us. I make no deliberate efforts to humiliate her, but the servers and clerks in the shops and restaurants that we frequent have learned to address me, and only me, with any questions and transactions. They are all polite to her, I won’t tolerate rudeness, but there is an aura of invisibility surrounding her in adult conversations. In the restaurants and shops that we frequent, many people assume that she is my personal assistant rather than my spouse.