Becoming Dom – The mindset- Setting the tone.
If a Female Led Relationship has any chance of succeeding, you must make it happen. Literally, the Female Leads! You lead the way. If you have chosen this lifestyle then there must be a part of you that either wants this or agreed to it. Whether you have doubts or not you must put aside any hesitation. Never let your hesitation show. Unless you are experienced as a Dominatrix, you will have to learn your new role just as your new housewife must learn hers.
Beyond this point, there is no giggling, no wavering, no laughing and starting over. Before you flip the Dom switch the first time you must be prepared, you must be confident, you must have a plan and a plan “B”. Read, watch, learn, practice. Watch videos. Find a scene and imitate it. When you walk into that room you damn well better be resolute in your thoughts and actions. Practice. Practice. Practice. In the beginning you may not be able to even watch yourself in the mirror, but before game time, you need to be able to stand in front of that mirror with a granite face, a clenched jaw, and cold steel eyes. From this point forward, the thought of making you angry should make her pee her panties. It is less about how you look and more about how you act.
This will get easier with time, but you may well be scared initially. Find support somewhere, if you lose direction, seek inspiration in literature and videos. I am happy to guide you. Remember, your submissive wants this, she wants you to be firm and resolute. Not every woman is dominant, but any woman can be! Take charge! Make it perfectly clear that there will be no topping from the bottom.
Being dominant does not mean being violent and angry all the time, only when it serves a purpose. Your new role in life is not to be a bitch, the world is full of those. Nobody wants to serve a bitch; everyone wants to serve a Dominatrix. You can display a spectrum of demanding behaviors, but you must first establish yourself with an Apex behavior.
Once you have established yourself as a dominant you can vary your tone and your demands according to your mood:
“I’ll have a glass of wine.”
“Get me a glass of wine.”
“Wine, belt, bedroom. NOW!!!”
Your presence alone should cause her to fall to the ground, wrap herself around your legs and weep. She should desire to live at your feet. All that you deserve is now yours. Command it! Work it! Get it, Girl!
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