Feminization: Why feminization? Feminization is the physical embodiment of the role reversal. When you are wearing a dress, it is hard to forget what your new role is supposed to be. It is not a means of punishment or humiliation, and you are not trying to make him gay. You are trying to reformat him internally and externally. If you want him to be more understanding and in tune with your feminine needs then he must experience femininity at some level. If he is to serve properly you must assume the dominant role and he must embrace the submissive role. Not surprisingly, an effective feminization process will make him healthier, more attractive, more responsive, and happier than he would ever have been in a conventional relationship.  

How do you begin this journey? Ask a man to wear a dress and he will laugh in your face; ask him to be your lesbian lover and watch him sprint to the panty drawer.  Feminization is a means to eradicate the male psyche and reinforce the domestic role. Feminization will facilitate the acceptance of the submissive role. Trust me when I say it is not difficult to entice a man into lingerie.  

Renaming: Renaming is, of course, a vital part of psychological reframing. I suggest something simple, feminine, but to the point. Avoid boutique names like Brittney, and Kourtney. Keep it simple: Amy, Annie, Bonnie, Marie. Some names have a definite feminine girly quality to them, Alice, Nancy, Betty (but not Veronica). The names should have a girly quality but certainly not a mature quality such as Kate, Katherine, Elizabeth, Margaret, etc. For amusement, browse the self-serve porn sites and look at the names the transgenders have chosen for themselves. Maybe you will find something that rings a bell. As Mistress, you are within your rights to choose the name of the one that serves you, but it is a nice gesture if you choose a name that she is comfortable with. A suitable name, one that she likes and is proud of will facilitate successful acceptance of her new role. 

Protocol: You will need to determine a proper form of address for your situation. I personally do not care for the “Yes, Mistress!” routine. To me, this is a connotation reserved for professional dominatrices and escorts in role-play scenarios. I do not structure our FLR relationship as a form of slavery or cuckoldry. I want her response to convey submission, servitude, and respect. My preferred response is, “Yes, Miss!” Depending upon the boundaries established for your relationship you may choose separate forms of address for home, public, and family situations. 

Physique: A rigid feminization routine will not only reformat the male psyche, but the male physique. I promise you that at the culmination of this transformation “she” will be healthier than “he” ever was. I advocate daily Yoga programs in all feminization programs along with regular aerobic activities and resistance training. Exercise means proper exercise, not pushing barbells around in a gym. Some men are strong, many are bulked, very few are actually well trained and healthy. Quite frankly, most men are put under the table by routine household chores or even the simplest Yoga class.

Hygiene: A total transformation includes hygiene, skin care, anti-aging, diet, and exercise. For most men, a basic hygiene regimen includes showering, shaving, brushing their teeth, and occasionally, clipping their nails. A rudimentary feminization protocol will involve showering and bathing, removal of all hair below the eyebrows (including nose and ears), hair care, moisturizing, exercise, and diet. Diet doesn’t necessarily mean restricted calories, but a healthier eating style.

Training: Effective feminization will require him to learn to move more gracefully, less like a bull in the proverbial China shop. Gentler movements lead to gentler thoughts, gentler thoughts facilitate the transition to a more feminine presence and a collapsing male ego. This transition is not going to manifest itself at the snap of your fingers (finger snapping will come later). In order to reap the rewards of having a healthy, happy, competent husband housewife you are going to have to invest time, money, and energy. 

Proper training will involve a great deal of effort and time on your part. Most men have absolutely no idea how much time and effort are required to properly cook and clean a house, do laundry, and the shopping, in addition to the overwhelming and bewildering demands of relearning hygiene, exercise, and dressing. Oh, and accessories! So much to learn!

You will have to teach him how to cook, to clean, to dress, to do his makeup (yes, makeup), how to exercise as a girl, to shop, to do laundry, and of course, how to meet your needs sexual and non-sexual. Pampering, massage, and bedroom skills. Intensive training can be done boot camp style, best done if he works from home or on vacation. Ideally a two-week vacation would be devoted to intensive training.  

Take time to teach him, correct him but don’t humiliate him during this period. Never belittle him if he is putting in an honest effort. Don’t call him stupid. Correct what is wrong, praise what is right, make him proud of his work, make him proud of pleasing you! Remember the goal is to get him trained to do it on his own and do it right. 

In the beginning, he will work harder than he has ever worked in his life. As these new skills become learned and ingrained you can move on to new tasks. You will not have a free moment, just as he will not, but in the end, you will be the one with free time on your hands. Time to relax, be pampered, read, and be worshipped and adored. Pet the puppy. 

A Female Led Relationship (FLR) is an alternative lifestyle in which the female becomes the dominant partner in a marriage or long-term relationship. We will explore various levels and applications of female led relationships, and the dynamics that shape and drive a successful FLR. 

By classical definition, FLRs range from a minor power exchange (Level-One) to a complete power exchange (Level-Four). A Level-One FLR barely qualifies as an alternative lifestyle. This marriage (or long-term relationship) appears to follow conventional societal expectations, but it is the female who is the dominant decision-making partner in the home. Many of you may have actually grown up in such an environment. Many of you had grandmothers who were dominant by default. For generations, men have brought their paychecks home to wives who raised the children, kept the house, paid the bills, and made the decisions that governed the family life. 

On the other extreme, a Level-Four FLR is an alternative lifestyle in which the husband cedes all power to the wife, becoming submissive to her in all things. In Femdom fantasy fiction this level of power exchange totally emasculates, enslaves, and cuckolds the husband. Level-Four FLRs are impractical in real life and are seldom practiced in committed loving relationships. 

Between these two extremes exists an endless variety of FLR arrangements and agreements. This blog will focus on a specialized type of FLR which we believe to be not only rewarding, but practical, feasible, and sustainable in the real world. To wit: A Female Led Relationship with Role Reversal and Feminization of the husband in the context of a committed, permanent, loving relationship. This is a complex lifestyle, but one which is feasible, practical, and supremely rewarding. 

It is our belief that feminization is the single most effective tool in reformatting the male psyche and breaking down societal and religious conditioning. In order to make this an effective lifestyle, not roleplay, the male must assume a submissive mindset. This is not role-play where the “male” allows the “female” to pretend to be the dominant. In this lifestyle, the female becomes the absolute dominant and the male becomes the absolute submissive. It is hard to pretend to be the man of the house when dressed in a bra, panties, and four-inch heels. Feminine dress and mannerisms are the embodiment of the submissive role and status in the relationship. You were the housewife, now he/she is the housewife. The husband becomes the housewife, and you want her to be the best housewife possible in order to serve you properly. In general, the term “feminization” will be used in regard to overall feminization of the male in appearance, behavior, and thought, but not necessarily physical changes that would require hormones, implants, or surgery. 

Who participates in a female led relationship? Why would anyone agree to this type of arrangement? What are the benefits of this lifestyle? What are the responsibilities of this lifestyle? Is this a practical lifestyle for me? Within these posts you will find the “pros” and “cons” of this alternative lifestyle, learning resources to help you decide if this is a path for you, and guidelines for implementing a practical female led relationship in your home. 

What FLR is not. It is not slavery. It is not cuckoldry. This is a power exchange in which the female becomes the dominant partner, and the male becomes submissive to the needs and wishes of the female. In a true FLR lifestyle the female will be dominant not only at home, but in public as well. This is why boundaries are necessary. Regardless of the type or level of domination agreed upon, neither party should ever be compromised in connection with job, friends, or family. If we go to dinner, he wears male clothes, I order for both of us, I pay, he walks behind, and speaks when spoken to. If I choose to embarrass or humiliate him, that is my prerogative, although I rarely do that unless he is in the doghouse. If we go to dinner with friends or family, then his behavior is expected to be polite and deferential, but he may speak conversationally and order for himself. Of course, his friends and family probably will not notice the hose, garter belt, and panties. Probably.

What elements are necessary for implementing and sustaining a permanent female led relationship with feminization? During your initial discussions of the lifestyle, you must construct rules and boundaries that are not only consistent with your desired relationship but are also consistent with your environment. 

You must have a conducive environment. Obviously, you cannot feminize your husband in a home where children are present. If you are experiencing lifestyle changes due to external factors such as relocation, are newly married, empty nesting, retiring or working from home, you may find this an excellent opportunity to integrate a female led relationship. Ideally, the husband would become a full-time housewife, working from home, however if the husband works outside the home, it is imperative that he leave his masculinity at the door. Do not allow any male persona in the home. Require that all male clothing be removed at the door. Establish a two-foot radius at the front and back door beyond which only femininity is allowed. Keep feminine clothing and shoes in that area always for quick change.  

Beyond a conducive environment, a successful FLR recipe will require an Alpha Female, a Beta Male, commitment, love, devotion, time, money, patience, intelligence, and a never-ending desire to live, learn, and grow as a couple. With the proper mix of these ingredients you will both lead a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life. You cannot establish an FLR with Alpha Males. In a dominant relationship someone must lead, and someone must follow. By definition, you are entering into a lifestyle in which the female is dominant. By definition, Alpha Males are dominant. Square peg, round hole (as in asshole!). If Alpha Males are your cup of tea, you would not be here in the first place. 

Finally, in order to execute a successful FLR you must define the parameters of lifestyle. Rules and boundaries must be established, and a firm commitment and agreement must be reached. The female must be willing and capable of exhibiting a dominant nature, the male must be willing to accept his role as a submissive and serve the female willingly in all things. This is not slavery, however, once decisions are made, the rules and boundaries must be enforced, accountability and punishments must be established.