Essential Beginnings 

As the dominant spouse, you now control every aspect of her life inside the boundaries. As previously discussed, different levels of FLR involve different levels of servitude and variable permission levels. Her responsibilities now include all household cleaning, cooking, laundry, full feminization compliance and training, and personal service.  

She will need to be trained in every aspect of her new life. This blog will encompass endless types and styles of training methods. You must adapt the methods to your own environment. Her training begins immediately and never ends. The pace and intensity of training will vary according to your life situation and the level of FLR that you have chosen to establish. Initial training intensity may range from something as simple as performing chores with you until they are suitably learned, to a “Boot Camp” approach. Each of these styles will be discussed in greater detail later. 

Housework. Most men have no idea how much work is involved in keeping a home properly cleaned. It is the responsibility of the wife to ensure that the submissive is thoroughly and properly trained. This is not a French Maid fantasy. Your goal is a practical, sustainable lifestyle. Housewives don’t clean house every day in a uniform, and neither should she.  If you feel compelled at some point to dress her for special occasions, punishment, or training, I suggest a simple housekeeping uniform. Save the French Maid uniform for your amusement or for entertaining company.  

Attire. We will have much to say about makeup and dress in this blog. However, daily casual clothing works best for housekeeping. I prefer skirts, dresses, and rompers in the house, and I prefer that she wear heels whenever I am home. Her clothing will of course vary according to occasion, task, training module, and of course the mood and whim of the wife. At no time should she not be appropriately attired. Exercise is always done in exercise clothing, yoga is practiced in yoga clothing, dance practice is done in dancewear, swimming is done in a swimsuit, and bedtime… 

Makeup. She will have to be taught how to do her makeup properly. Be realistic. She doesn’t need full makeup with smoky bedroom eyes for daily activities. A light foundation with eye shadow and lip color is sufficient. Fingernails and toenails should always be manicured. A short wig is most practical for daily activities, a light perfume is required; until preliminary training is complete, I would skip the rings and bracelets and require only a light necklace. 

Feminization. Feminization protocols will be a constant theme throughout this blog, and a perpetual learning curve for the submissive. There is so much to learn in the early stages of transition that you cannot overwhelm her with information. You should, however, guide her through the basics of makeup and hygiene, feminine presence and attitude. For example, bathing should be followed by moisturizing and when exiting the bath the towel goes around the torso, not around the waist. In subsequent modules we will address feminine presence, behavior, posture, and movement in depth.

The benefits of an FLR are numerous but so are the responsibilities. As the dominant, you are not going to spend the rest of your life laying on the couch getting fat. You are responsible for decisions big and small. The health and welfare of the submissive is now your responsibility. This includes both physical and mental health. 

It is the responsibility of the dominant to provide all resources needed for transition, training, and daily life. This includes both the cost and the effort required. This will not be a life of leisure for either of you in the beginning. It is your responsibility to maintain the rules and permissions in effect under the established guidelines. Discipline and compliance must be maintained. Failure to perform, and compliance failures by the submissive must be dealt with fairly and effectively. 

It is your responsibility to ensure that the relationship does not become stagnant, nor does it become overwhelming. Just because he followed you down the rabbit hole does not mean that you are now the Red Queen. “Off with their heads!” is not an option here. Your goal as dominant should be perpetual growth and evolution. 

Erotic tension is the engine that drives successful FLRs. Cultivating and maintaining that tension is your responsibility. There are many tools at your disposal: rewards, punishments, mystery, fear, and compassion. You are responsible for being attractive, alluring, mysterious. Obviously, you will be exhibiting a new presence, power, and demeanor, but don’t hesitate to present a new appearance now, or at any time in the future. If there is a certain look and attitude that makes you appear intimidating, don’t be afraid to use it. Be glamorous, be mysterious, be anything that you want to be. Just don’t be a slob. 

Ours is not a cuckolding relationship, but don’t be afraid to be mysterious enough to make him wonder. I particularly enjoy going “Butch” and making her wonder if I am having an affair with a friend or work colleague. Men are fascinated by lesbian relationships. Make her jealous and horny at the same time. These are good motivators.

For the men. Ok, you’ve begged and pleaded, or she has begged and pleaded, or you both agreed. The table has been set; you have agreed to be a submissive to your wife’s domination. Now be the best submissive you can be.  From this point forward you will display no attitude, no back talking, no questioning, and no resistance. There will be no door slamming, no pouting, and no moping. Your attitude should reflect your pride in your new station in life. Be proud to serve your Mistress, and always strive to make her proud of you. Be humble. Be proud.

Never question her moods or behavior, they are not yours to question. Never hesitate when instructed to do something. You must always assume that Mistress knows best. Your proper response in all situations is “Yes, Miss!”   Don’t assume you have any rights or privileges beyond those established in the initial guidelines; If she wants you to speak, she will tell you. In some households or training modules the sub must ask for the right to use the bathroom. Stay off the furniture unless told otherwise. 

Worship your Mistress, anticipate her needs. Above all, respect her privacy. Take pride in your household. Take pride in yourself. Finally, be thankful, you have been given a rare and valuable gift. 

Feminization Begins

After the Female Led Relationship Agreement is reached, there will need to be a period of training, indoctrination, and adjustment. At the time of the agreement you must establish an official date and time for the transfer of power. This date does not need to coincide with your formal FLR ceremony. You must draw up a training plan and you will need to schedule her training activities. There are several approaches that you can take, depending on your resources.

In the most extreme case, you may take a “Boot Camp” approach. This is a total immersion in the new lifestyle. He will spend his last night as your husband and wake up the next morning as a “housewife cadet”. Training will begin before sunrise and continue until an exhausted bedtime. Unfortunately, most of us do not have the time and resources to make the boot camp approach feasible. Boot Camp is an effective transformation method on many levels, but it requires a total 24 hour per day commitment from both parties and almost unlimited resources. For this to be completely effective you may need outside support and an experienced trainer or multiple trainers. I hope the day will come when there are FLR support groups in every major community to support fledgling female led marriages.

On a more practical level, once you have reached an FLR agreement and agreed on a date for the power exchange to occur, you will begin an orderly, systematic training program. From this point forward it is your responsibility to train her in every aspect of her new life. Do not assume that she knows anything about what will be required of her. If you want her to clean house a certain way, you must teach her explicitly how you want it done. If you want her to serve tea a certain way, you must teach her exactly how you want that done. This will extend to every task and behavior that will be required of her, from kitchen to bedroom. 

Ideally, the husband would become a full-time housewife, or work from home; however, if the husband works outside the home, it is imperative that he leave his masculinity at the door. Do not allow any male persona in the home. Require that all male clothing be removed at the door. Establish a two-foot radius at the front and back door beyond which only femininity is allowed. Keep feminine clothing and shoes in that area always for quick change. 

If Amy is out of the house in male drab or androgyny, she returns in the front or back door, sets down whatever she is carrying and removes any male persona. She immediately puts on her heels and proceeds into the house in bra, panties, and heels. If the house is chilly due to weather, she will keep a robe, dress, or skirt and sweater stashed near the door. Of course, if she is on restricted permissions, she may have to enter the home naked except for her heels and tan lines!

Remember always that you are now responsible for her in every way. Her health and well-being are now your responsibility. You must take this responsibility seriously and never forget it. With great power comes great responsibility. Before you punish any transgression, ask yourself if you taught that task or behavior properly. Do not expect her to read your mind at this point in her transition. Her mind will be overwhelmed with new information and with learning new skills: 

Regardless of the intensity and duration of training it is recommended that the following rules are enforced in any beginner feminization training program:

• Male clothing is prohibited. Pants, other than yoga pants, or exercise shorts, are forbidden. Yoga pants and exercise shorts may be worn only during the actual exercise period. 
• Initial stages of skincare and grooming are implemented.  
• Light make-up and perfume are to be worn at all times.  
• Hair will be styled, or short wigs are to be worn in the home, except while bathing or sleeping.  
• Earrings may be worn but are not required. Rings are optional, a light necklace should be worn at all times.  
• Until you have trained her to wear heels properly, she will wear practical feminine shoes. I require Amy to wear heels whenever I am in the home. 
• Panties or pantyhose are mandatory, along with a bra, bralette, or chemise of some type. Dresses or skirts may be worn.  
• If skirts are worn, tops may be worn in any feminine style: tank tops, swing tops, halter tops, etc. These tops will need to be practical for housework. 
• Nails will be properly manicured at all times. Toenails will always be polished. 

These will be demanding days for both of you. You may be the dominant partner, but your days of pampered leisure are still well into your future.

In this world there are alpha men, and beta men. You know exactly what I am talking about. Alpha males are stereotypically dominant, dark, virile, masculine, and well-endowed. Surprisingly, some may also exhibit homosexual tendencies. Beta males, on the other hand, tend to be less virile, less dark, less hairy, and are not always well-endowed.

Women love their alpha boys, and are drawn to bad boys like moths to a flame. They are ever so happy to land a bad boy, then the trouble begins. Bad boys are bad boys. They are not domestic. Many a woman has come to me in despair, “But I thought he would change! I thought he wanted to settle down!” Settling down is not in the nature of bad boys.

Most women are hard wired for arousal with Alpha males. Dominant, dark, virile, hairy, well endowed. However, the world is full of Beta males. Less virile, less dark, less hairy, and not always well endowed. Alpha males are better breeders, Beta males tend to be better providers, more stable, responsive, and affectionate. The odds of establishing an FLR with an Alpha male are miniscule. Beta males are much more appropriately hard wired for conversion. They are, by nature, more domestic, and have a higher estrogen/testosterone ratio.

It is very possible for a woman to love a Beta male, but very often a power vacuum will exist. This power vacuum can be filled with female dominance. Beta males are quite often filled with insecurities which they mask by providing for, and caring for the wife. Those not generously endowed often become quite adept at satisfying their wives in other ways. Cunnilingus! Analingus! Discover the wonders! 

In addition to Alpha males and Beta males there exists a subclass of males known as the Alpha/Beta male. You know the type, little boys playing with big boy toys. Big trucks, power tools, lots of flash but little or no sense of responsibility. These are “Frat Boys” for life. They may have decent jobs and paychecks but the wife manages the money, raises the kids, and cleans up Hubbie’s messes until she must reign him in and scold him like a mother. Women have been running households and calling the shots behind the scenes of these households throughout history. These men can be brought to heel.

Alpha males tend to be better breeders, Beta males tend to be better providers and caretakers, more responsible, more responsive, and more affectionate. Beta males also tend to be more sensitive. In a world of physical attraction and monetary success, they usually run second; therefore, Beta males tend to be filled with insecurities. “Am I man enough?” “Am I strong enough?” Am I large enough?

A wise woman will use these insecurities as tools in the FLR tool chest. You want to be the most important thing in his life, he wants to be the most important thing in your life. This is common ground. This is fertile ground. Prepare to plow!